Authenticity & Vulnerability: What it looks like in life
Yesterday was my Rise & Shine Event based around authenticity & vulnerability. I feel like I might sometimes over use the word magical but in a word, it was magical. The ladies who showed up did so ready to embrace their true self and remain open to whatever lesson they were meant to learn in that moment.
So authenticity and vulnerability. What do these words mean and how can we express them in our lives?
To me, authenticity means saying “Yes!” to your true self and standing in your core values. The values that bring you to joy and creativity. The ones that always ring true in your heart. Authenticity is being comfortable in your own skin. Leaving every interaction confidently knowing your part in the interaction was genuine. You know the feeling. It’s almost not a feeling. You’re not second guessing what you said, the way you were standing. You were just being you and it felt good!
Vulnerability. When I think about being vulnerable I get both scared and super excited! In vulnerability you are remaining open. Accepting of ALL possibilities that may come your way. You dance in the uncertainty and knowing that The Universe has your back.
How do we express these traits? At the event we spoke in detail about 5 possible action steps. I’ll briefly cover them now!
1. Imperfect Action
You’ve heard me talk about it before. Perfectionism can be your worst enemy. It will stop you from putting anything out there. It keeps you from authenticity and vulnerability. Imperfect action puts you in a vulnerable position but it’s also a position of power. Knowing that what you’re putting out into the world is coming from a true and authentic place you can know that it will connect with someone.
2. Living in a scarcity mindset vs. abundance mindset
Scarcity. We’ve all been there. Thinking we don’t have enough and always needing/wanting more. It doesn’t feel good. It reeks of fear and leaves no room for vulnerability. But when you live in abundance you are allowing The Universe to come through for you. You say, what I have is enough right now but I invite however much you want to give me! I am open to the endless possibilities!
"The first step toward discarding a scarcity mentality involves giving thanks for everything that you have." - Wayne Dyer
3. Feminine vs Masculine Energy
I have great news! You don’t have to choose. It’s not a this or that situation. In fact, a balance of the two is going to be where you find your power. Be authentic to what rings true to you. Don’t shy away from feminine energy just because you have always tended to be more masculine. Whatever feels good and right for the situation is what you should use.
4. Belongingness vs Fitting In
How many times have you thought, “I just wanna fit in!” I know I’m guilty. But “fitting in” usually means changing an aspect of yourself so people like you. Belongingness on the other hand, belongingness feels good. It feels like home. It’s where you don’t have to think about what to do and what not to do. Your authentic self shines naturally in a belonging environment. This feeling brings me to my last action step...
You have to find your tribe ladies and gentlemen! In your tribe you can try on your vulnerability without fear of judgement or hurt. You can become more comfortable in who you are and start showing up authentically everywhere you go. What a beautiful thing!
If you can start implementing these 5 ideas/strategies/whatever you want to call them,
I think you will find yourself becoming more attuned to your true self and your true desires in life.
If you want to learn more about vulnerability and authenticity, reach out to me and let’s chat! You can always schedule a free call with me on my scheduler.
Love you all!