There was a time in my life where I was living the "American Dream". I had a successful career in corporate America. I got to fly all over the world for my work. I had the perfect little family with a beautiful home. By all accounts, I was living the life! But something was off.
That “offness” was me being inauthentic with myself. I wasn’t living my true purpose. But I didn’t know how/want to give up this seemingly perfect life I had created for myself. My parents were proud of me, societal standards said I had made it. What was there to give up really?
It wasn’t until my mother passed away from breast cancer that I woke up to the fact that, I need to live life by design. Not default. Sure all the stuff I had was wonderful, but at what cost? It felt soul sucking. I just wanted to live a life aligned with who I knew I was meant to be. After my mother's passing, I broke down and my life crumbled around me. But from the wreckage, I was able to put myself back together. And this time, I did it in a way that felt authentic and aligned with who I was before life happened.
This is what my journey to authenticity looked like:
For who I was without any of the outside pressure. Of my flaws AND my strengths. Through this acceptance I recognized in myself a desire to help other women who might be in the same boat I was. I wanted to get them help before they hit rock bottom.
I decided that I wasn’t just going to live life to live it. I was going to move forward with intention and pay attention to how I was feeling with every decision. If it didn’t align, I was going to find a different path.
3. Creating Boundaries
Before my whole world crumbled, I was everything to everybody. But that was an unrealistic way of being. I ended up running on empty. Burnt out but pretending I was fine. I wore the "I'm invincible" mask and I wore it proud! Not anymore. I have to be honest with myself and others, take off those inauthentic masks and speak up when something is just too much. I have to be authentic.
This journey hasn't been easy but boy has it been rewarding! If living authentically is your goal, start practicing the above steps. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Also, I would love for you to attend my Rise & Shine for the BossLady Within event on June 29th. The theme is authenticity and it is a great time to connect with like-minded ladies who may be going through some of the same things as you are! I hope to see you there!
Much Love & Light,